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I'm Back!

I’m bbbaaaacccckkkkkkkk!!

It’s been quite the long hiatus but I’ve made my way back to the blog. The last time I blogged was back in the summer and I’m making it my goal to start blogging, writing and documenting with intention again!

Let me fill you in on what I’ve been up to over the last five months. I’ve been working at a branding and communications agency called Creative Nobility since May. Along with Creative Nobility I started working with a local apparel company, Local Laundry, helping out with their collaboration projects and weekly blog management. As well a recent endeavor with brands called SunnaSmile and SunnaTan assisting with Instagram content management and brand building. It’s busy, the hustle is definitely real but it’s a lot of fun. Having been creating content for these companies along with some of their clients, it has given me unreal learning opportunities but I haven’t had a lot of time to blog for myself, which is why I’m coming back to it!

2016 was definitely a year of growth. A year of new first’s such as new jobs, new people and a new boyfriend (who me?!?!). Coming into my first internship with Creative Nobility and locking down my first “real job” I made it my goal to build relationships, attempt at making strategic moves to help my career and network my face off.

As my world and mind have been opened up, the blog will still focus on relationship storytelling but also bring light to our family and friendship daily interactions. This blog is an open discussion highlighting the daily and weekly commentary of people, places and things around me.

So let’s dive into it.

I’ve been in relationship with a real live human man for over seven months. The relationship has been an amazing experience, my boyfriend is a truly wonderful man and best of all he puts up with all of my shit. However all this amazing-wonderful-ness doesn’t provide me with much content to bitch about…it is true women are never happy. I digress. Relationships are still tricky. The balance of career, social and romantic lives is where I find the most hassle lives. Think of the meaning of balance; to keep or put something in a steady position so that it does not fall. For something not to fall it has to be steady. But such as life, it is not steady. Every day is different more weight could be in one area of your life compared to the other – so does that mean it falls? The balancing act of not only a relationship, but also a relationship integrated with work, friends and family (dare I say it)…is fricken hard.

This is what I think it comes down to. Creating and maintaining balance in your relationship I think, but keep in mind this is my opinion, is compatibility. You’re probably sitting their thinking “yeah duh Kathleen, kind of a no brainer”, but hear me out. I think it’s about truly liking the person you’re with. In some cases I believe lust blurs out how we actually get along with a person and can get in the way of making a true connection. My mother used to say, “even if I met your Father today and never knew him, I would like him.” My Mother loved my Father, yes, but even on the hard days or the days of doubt or what have you, she liked him.

I never really understood this notion of hers until recently. Over the holidays my boyfriend and I traveled to Kelowna and Kamloops for New Years and for some time spent away from the big city. Full disclosure I had never been away with significant other just the two of us without the accompaniment of friends or family before, weird right? So to be quite frank I was totally nervous. The trip was phenomenal and we had a total blast.

Thinking that this trip was the first ever with a boyfriend and myself, I couldn’t help but think why I hadn’t had a one-on-one trip with any of my previous boyfriends, how come we never went anywhere just the two of us? I was curious to find out. Without meaning to intentionally hurt any of their feelings, I think the reason is I just didn’t like them. During our relationship, yes I loved them, but it didn’t seem like our relationship was held together by friendship. Looking back now even though some were over six years ago, it seemed as if we needed so much more to keep the relationship alive. Things like partying, sports, friends and family life, the external factors outweighed how much time we spent internally together. It’s as if we weren’t compatible unless there was ample amounts of external stimulus. Perhaps that’s what a relationship in your late teens and 20s is all about.

Don’t get me wrong I liked my ex-boyfriends during our relationships, but the relationships didn’t last. Which leads me to believe; because my current relationship has so much more compatibility will it last longer? So far the relationship has lasted, and at this point I should just count my lucky stars it’s lasted this long in the first place…

The question that is weighing heavy on my mind is, if you took out all the extra “stuff” that pulls your attention away from your relationship and it was just you, your significant other in a room with nothing – could you still be happy? Is that the secret? It’s been known that if people buy big houses they feel compelled to fill them, often times filling it was stuff they don’t need. If you take out the “stuff” you don’t need that exists in your relationship is that where you find the most happiness?

XOXO Witty Kitty

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